America, us women have a problem...

The title says the most. This blog will hit the sensitivities us girls of America have been having to face lately. Honestly, and in depth.

So to start, as I was scrolling through my social media today basically all I saw was, the temperatures are dropping, and there's a new law about aborting full term pregnancies in New York. Now to be completely honest I am NOT political at all, I was raised that participating in politics was my own choice and decision, as everything should be in YOUR own life.

I personally am completely against abortion, IN MY OPINION, which everyone is certainly entitled to, and I respect. But to me I do not agree. In high school I took a law class, and one topic was abortion, I got SO heated in that discussion I took my opportunity for the last word and stated "Abortion Is Bad." grabbed my stuff, and walked out, because I was SET on my opinion. As I took the time today to read more into what exactly this new law was and some stories I came across, it in a way brought me a new perspective on abortion. A story such as a lady almost losing her life, to give birth to a still born baby, who is pregnant again, in hopes this baby does not carry the same genetic disease that will come with the same outcome as her last pregnancy. It made me think, if I were in this position, what would I do? If I knew this baby not only had the chance to die (most likely) , but I too would risk my life again, what would I do? I think we often jump to the legit WORST reasons to get an abortion. A teenager. Doesn't want a baby. So on and so forth. We don't think of situations where people are literally risking their lives to give birth to a baby that has already passed, and relating stories.There are some people I have known who haven't even had the chance of their baby living BUT THEY DID. THEY overcame the odds. Am I saying abortion is okay? No, I am not. But we don't know every situation that women are put in, where some have to make this heart wrenching decision and we as OTHER woman sit back and judge them as they have to already deal with why they are having to make this decision. Do I think abortion should be available to just anyone and everyone? NO. Absolutely not. But I do believe it should be available. In my personal opinion, abortion should only be available to those who are put at risk of losing their own life, if giving birth to this child, told to you by a doctor. If I've learned one thing lately, it's people are going to do what they have to do, to get what they want. If we do not provide safe abortions, they will still figure out a way. Which could lead to the spread of more diseases, and unsanitary conditions.

Then there is the talk of "well if you don't want a baby then why aren't you taking birth control, why aren't you using condoms, why aren't you just not having sex?" Getting pregnant is literally a NATURAL thing that humans do first of all, not EVERYTHING can stop it. Yes, you could just "not have sex" but I wonder how many of those people were in fact teenagers, having sex, risking getting pregnant, at one point in their life. Then there is condoms, yes, although those don't always work, and then there is plan B which runs anywhere from $30-$50. EXPENSIVE, for a country that wants people to only have planned pregnancies. Then there is the most dreaded thing an American can do anymore...make a MISTAKE. God forbid! Life goes unplanned, and mistakes happen. Honestly what have we come to?

....and then... there is birth control. A woman's WORST nightmare. That only a WOMAN would know. Let's be real. I have been on birth control, for 6 years now, four different brands, and a whole rollercoaster of emotions, to being on a birth control that I just decided to settle for because I know I am not ready for a child right now, and honestly with each switch it becomes worse. I have talked with friends about birth control, and I have never heard someone had a good experience with it. Birth control is no joke my friends. Birth control has drained me emotionally, made me feel disgusting, messed with my hormones to a whole new level, made me gain 30 + pounds, and BROKE mine and my parents bank to afford it. My birth control (costs went up recently, with no notice may I add) cost $140 every 3 months, that's roughly $50 a month, for a GENERIC OFF BRAND birth control, that has taken a toll on me as a human. Definitely not free like most believe it is, and my insurance doesn't cover a single DIME! This isn't always do-able for someone, especially when insurance companies have decided their limits on birth control. That being just the minor details of the effects of birth control, but honestly if I went into detail of what I have endured being on birth control, people wouldn't be able to handle it, because it's the truth.

SO when thinking about abortion, birth control, and protection, boyyyyy does it get my rilled up! Not only because I don't believe MEN should be making decisions for our women rights, which they have NO idea about, but because I think WE as WOMAN, only think about ourselves. Another thing I am not, a feminist, but I am not that because I think there ARE differences in things a man should do and a woman should do. Such as a man making decisions for a woman and the things that happen to her body, nope that's a woman's job. (Beyond the point completely, and a whole different subject.)This is America. People come to America because we are known as the land the of the FREE. Yet, the past couple years I have felt nothing but controlled by society, and the beliefs of society, because if we view it differently in our own opinion, then we are wrong, so wrong. It has gotten easier to just be bossed around, and put our own beliefs aside. People need to talk, they need to talk with an open mind, and an open heart, and truly listen to what others have to say. SPEAK YOUR MIND. DO NOT conform to society, and we AS A SOCIETY should be accepting others for what they believe in! Who cares, who cares if you don't agree. Like I don't' agree to abortion, but these stories I heard shed a new light on my opinion, because I opened them knowing I probably wasn't going to like what I read, but if I open it up, it's my responsibilty to read with an open mind and an open heart.

And this is my view on the topic of abortion, birth control, and protection, and trust me it's just the gist of it.